Transformation Secret: Embrace it.We are often told to banish our inner critic but moving forward with ease can never take place when we have a war going on inside us. It’s never about shutting the voice up but rather inviting it in for a coffee and a chat, listening deeply to its wisdom and the positive intention it wants for us. It’s here to teach us something. Something that’s inside of us that wants to be heard, understood or nourished. In the above example the judgement looks like it’s coming from a physical place with her arm criticism, nose and horrendous pants but listening deeper there’s likely something more there. There is a whole other part that’s not getting heard or represented and an underlying reason she changes up her game to guarantee she won’t ever be successful at losing weight permanently. She’ll repeat this pattern over and over again until that underlying reason is resolved. Until the parts of her that object to her getting and STAYing healthy are at peace. There is a deep fear about what it would mean for her to be healthy for good and what she BELIEVED would happen if she did. The next time this voice sneaks in, take a deep breath, some space for yourself and listen. You may find your inner critic really wants the most authentic and best version of you despite the harsh words and criticism. You may learn that deep down you agree with the positive intention it has for you, just not the methods it uses. I’ve learned to make my inner critic my best friend. I call her something not very nice that rhymes with mitch and it’s not witch but luckily she’s not offended! She’s always honest and just needs a bit of decoding but I’ve learned to appreciate her, love her and keep her by my side. If you’d like to explore the wants of your inner critic, I’m offering 5 FREE 30 minute sessions dedicated to Transforming judgment into LOVE to the first 5 people who sign up. If you struggle with your inner critic and would like to dive deep into making friends with him or her than sign up below.