I am both a fan of New Year’s resolutions and not so much of a fan of New Year’s resolutions.
Here’s why. I love the idea of making this a magical time of change, and the idea of gearing up for making resolutions. I also know that every time I’ve done that, I have not accomplished my goal. Sure, we can do it for a couple of days, a couple of weeks. Maybe you’re that strange person that actually does make a resolution and continue with doing it. It’s very likely that if you are that kind of person, you’re not listening to this post anyway.
Science and research show, that for the vast majority of people, resolutions do not work. What does work is being resolute instead.
What does being resolute mean? It means being unfaltering, unwavering. It means being steadfast, determined, purposeful, single minded, firm, tenacious, and unshakeable. Those are all really good words. When we can turn on that power inside of us, everything changes.
The first thing I want you to do right now, is think about the thing that you would want to change. Maybe it’s something completely typical, like you want to lose some weight, or you want to stop drinking alcohol so much, or stop eating certain kinds of foods. Maybe the thing that you are wanting to change is not quite as typical as that. For the examples in this audio, I am going to use those more typical examples. You just think of it in terms of the thing that you want to change instead.
The first step in being resolute, is actually winding that habit back to the first moment in your day that it comes up. What I mean by that is this, drinking wine every night in your house, doesn’t just happen. You have to, at some point, purchase the wine. Becoming the kind of person who goes to the gym every day and works out, doesn’t just happen.
You have to become an earlier in the dayperson, the kind of person who at least goes to the gym, and checks in, even if they leave again. Which may sound kind of silly, but the kind of person who goes to the gym every single day, and at least checks in, is much more likely to become the kind of person who works out every day, or at least a lot more frequently.
What would that beginning habit be for you, in the thing that you are wanting to change. What is the earliest point at which the habit begins to take place? Not in feelings, not in things like being stressed out, or sad, not in thoughts, but in a specific actual action.
For something like going to the gym, it may be that you drive home from work every day, instead of stopping at the gym. Sometimes it can be that one little thing that you’re not doing. Often times, it’s the one thing that you are doing, like buying the wine, or buying the crappy food to have in the house. Find that point of origin.
This isn’t complex. If you’re trying to make it complex, you’re probably overthinking it. Go with the first thing that comes to mind as a possible point of origin. Work with that for a while, and then you may discover, or not, that there’s an earlier point of origin. At least you have begun. Don’t let this idea of needing to do it perfectly cause procrastination and not actually doing anything at all, which may be a great topic for a future post.
Okay, so now that you know the thing that you want to change, and you know the point of origin or your guess at the point of origin for the action, that gets to change, now we have something to work with in the subconscious mind and in the visualization process. If you’re not somebody who’s great at visualizing, that’s okay. I’m right there with you. Actually, what you wanna do in the eyes closed experience, instead of trying to picture things, is to get a feel for them, to get a sense of them. I will lead you in that language as well in the eyes closed experience portion of today’s post.
Begin the audio at 5:04 for the meditation portion of the process.
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